So I have decided to fully acclimate to the Parisian culture and am playing my hand in the dating game again. I've compiled a few steps to fully ensure that anyone else coming here can do just as I have:
1. Get enough courage to go up to them because only the creepy ones come up to you
2. Try to overcome the language gap by using the little French that you know and many hand gestures
3. Get their e-mail address (yeah its what they do here)
4. Follow up three to four days later and make a date
Apparently that's all you need and they are all yours? No, this probably wont work everytime, but recently it worked for me and now I'm six dates deep with a legitmate Parisian. Many great experiences have come out this relationship in fact. For one, I got to go on a a motorcycle ride around and outside of Paris to see the suburbs. I've also had the opportunity to try a few restaurants and bars that I wouldn't have gone to with just friends. And finally, I was able to have an authentic French meal cooked for me.
But, unfortunately, relationships aren't based off of what people can do for you. From what I've learned in my last 20 years is that they are based off of attraction, respect, and fluid and interesting communication. And it isn't that that isn't occuring here, it's just that a new element has been added--lack of a future. While many might be upset by that knowledge, I'm not. I didn't come to Europe to find love, there is plenty of that back in Madison. I came for an adventure and eye opening experience, and THAT is exactly what I'm getting, at least for now.
1. Get enough courage to go up to them because only the creepy ones come up to you
2. Try to overcome the language gap by using the little French that you know and many hand gestures
3. Get their e-mail address (yeah its what they do here)
4. Follow up three to four days later and make a date
Apparently that's all you need and they are all yours? No, this probably wont work everytime, but recently it worked for me and now I'm six dates deep with a legitmate Parisian. Many great experiences have come out this relationship in fact. For one, I got to go on a a motorcycle ride around and outside of Paris to see the suburbs. I've also had the opportunity to try a few restaurants and bars that I wouldn't have gone to with just friends. And finally, I was able to have an authentic French meal cooked for me.
But, unfortunately, relationships aren't based off of what people can do for you. From what I've learned in my last 20 years is that they are based off of attraction, respect, and fluid and interesting communication. And it isn't that that isn't occuring here, it's just that a new element has been added--lack of a future. While many might be upset by that knowledge, I'm not. I didn't come to Europe to find love, there is plenty of that back in Madison. I came for an adventure and eye opening experience, and THAT is exactly what I'm getting, at least for now.
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